Communication
July 10, 2017
In the root of every human problem lines
an underlying cause; communication.
-Kelvin
Every human problem is a relationship problem and behind every relationship problem or success is conversation and
communication. Communication and not conversation is the life or blood of any
relationship. Be it son and father, daughter and mother, boy and girl etc.
Every relationship where true communication cannot take place is bound to die
gradually. It is necessary therefore to understand that relationship cannot
exist without communication. Since communication is a prerequisite for
relationship and communication cannot take place in this context without
humans. Humans cannot exist without a creator, God. It is necessary to
understand why God created man?
Man("the spirit" man made in
God's image and likeness which God then placed in a male and female body) was
created to have a relationship with God. When this man "spirit" is
placed in a male body to exist in the physical realm he therefore needs
someone, the male seek a physical humans like himself to receive his love as
God has made man - the spirit - to give His love, the male man therefore seeks a recipient of his love.
The first defect God noticed in the
creation is "aloneness" because the male man had no one to receive
his love. Everything is perfect and good just that Adam was alone and this is
not good in the sight of God. God has created Adam to receive His love and Adam
(man in God's likeness placed in a male body) to give love. This
therefore created a necessity for a receiver of Adam's love, Eve. Relationship,
therefore is God's design for His product and He consider this (relationship) a
priority because no human can fully satisfy God's eternal purpose without other
humans. It is important to understand that you need others to be anything in this world, value everyone around you because you need them as they need you - the carpenter, shoe cobbler, beggars, trash packer, etc.
Every action an individual takes doesn't just affect him/her, it affect
the present and future generations. Be careful of the decision you make!
Your purpose in life is the fire many are
waiting for to burn. - Kelvin
If relationship is a necessity and we
cannot fulfill our purpose or any purpose at all without having a relationship.
It is therefore more important to understand how to goodly and godly"
relate" with one another.
Do two
work together unless they have "agreed" to do so? Amos 3:3
We cannot have agreement without
"Communication". Correct me if I'm wrong. So, we can conclude that
communication is a necessity for any form of relationship. If communication is
a prerequisite to fulfilling God's purpose which can only be fulfilled in the
context of relationship. Then many people will never fulfill purpose if they
cannot truly communicate their dream and vision to someone who will willfully
invest in it. There is therefore a need to communicate our vision to another
who will understand and invest in it.
Communication is the exchange of idea,
thought and emotion between two or more people who understood and can
reciprocate their understanding in order to bring about a change through
conscious investment of resources and accountability. Communication cannot take
place without conversation but Communication thinks win-win while conversation
seeks to get your message across without any attempt on your path to understand
the other person. Every message (verbal or nonverbal) comprises of three major
elements: The content (message), the tone of voice and the nonverbal (this
include facial expression and body gesticulation - body language). A latest
research I read shocked me so much, It was found that when we tend to transfer
our thoughts or ideas, statistic shows that the recipient receives the message
in the following percentages: content 7%, tone of voice is 38% and nonverbal is
55%. It is therefore not about what we are saying but "how" we
are saying what we are saying and what resources are we investing in order to
achieve the said change we desire.
Talk is cheap, communication require more
than just words. It requires investment of time and quietness (listening), it
require you to have a need to compromise your view to our views, it requires
patience, it requires money (sometimes), it requires you to seek the best and
affirm the best in your listener(s), it requires discipline, requires trust
and lastly it requires love (God).
To fully understand a person, it goes more
than just hearing. It involves listening, Listening is something we are never
taught in school. We are all taught to verbalize our thought - talk - but never
to listen. God knew the necessity or importance of listening that is why He
created humans with two ears and one mouth. This I think He did so we can
listen twice more than we talk.
Remember this, my dear brothers and
sisters: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and should not get
angry easily.
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