WE ALL CHEAT
July 01, 2017
Finding the right person who will love you the way you want to be loved is taking a chance, you might fall prey to so many Mr Wrong or Mrs Wrong. But it is your choice to either stay or continue your search. - Kelvin
Today, I want to talk about cheating.
It is mostly heard off that guys are dogs and ladies are bitches! It depends on which gender you want to lean your bias towards. Most ladies are quick to say that guys are unfaithful, then the question that bugs me is with who are they unfaithful with? You meet a guy, he asked you out, you said yes. After the late night date, you kissed, you cuddled, and he said you are sweet, you smiled and he feels you liked it. He kissed you on your neck, you shivered. He saw the invite in your eyes. He pressed further, made promises to erase your doubt and you let him in into your jar of cookies. Then the next day, his phone is unreachable. Then, you decided to check on him at home. You find him in bed with your best friend. Does that make him a cheat, unfaithful, a liar or a devil?
To be candid, I don’t believe a woman cheats on a man or a man cheats on a woman. I belief we cheat on ourselves. You might be tempted to ask me how? We cheat ourselves by not being physically, emotionally and mentally prepared for what we are getting into - It is a risk we are taking at love! It will either pan out good or bad. We are mostly concerned with the physical protection of using prophylactic (condoms) to protect ourselves from sexually transmitted diseases but we do not protect ourselves on the emotional and mental level. We are human being, composed of four major components - body, emotion, mind and spirit. We live in a generation where sex is no longer frowned at before marriage. At least we are well aware of the spiritual implication and anyone involved in sex before marriage knows he or she is sinning against his or her own body and he or she is separated from God – the Bible said that not me. What about the emotional and mental protection? Are you prepared for that before you let him or her into that 5 minutes act?
So you see, who is cheating who? He didn’t cheat on you, you cheated on yourself. You wanted love, he wanted sex. You thought you could get him to love you by offering sex – it doesn’t matter whether you are honest or not, what matters is you wanted him to love you. He needed sex but won’t give love back. You cheated on you thinking for him. A man would say anything to get what he wants and a woman would do the same. But, at the end of the day, are you physically, mentally and emotionally ready for the consequences? If you are not then don’t let him in. Before you take a chance on love, think twice. You either end up alone or with the two of you together!
Look before you leap. Don’t cheat yourself.
Watch out for part 2.
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Thanks.
Today, I want to talk about cheating.
- What is cheating?
- Who cheats most in a relationship?
- Why do we cheat?
- And how do you protect yourself from such partners that do?
It is mostly heard off that guys are dogs and ladies are bitches! It depends on which gender you want to lean your bias towards. Most ladies are quick to say that guys are unfaithful, then the question that bugs me is with who are they unfaithful with? You meet a guy, he asked you out, you said yes. After the late night date, you kissed, you cuddled, and he said you are sweet, you smiled and he feels you liked it. He kissed you on your neck, you shivered. He saw the invite in your eyes. He pressed further, made promises to erase your doubt and you let him in into your jar of cookies. Then the next day, his phone is unreachable. Then, you decided to check on him at home. You find him in bed with your best friend. Does that make him a cheat, unfaithful, a liar or a devil?
To be candid, I don’t believe a woman cheats on a man or a man cheats on a woman. I belief we cheat on ourselves. You might be tempted to ask me how? We cheat ourselves by not being physically, emotionally and mentally prepared for what we are getting into - It is a risk we are taking at love! It will either pan out good or bad. We are mostly concerned with the physical protection of using prophylactic (condoms) to protect ourselves from sexually transmitted diseases but we do not protect ourselves on the emotional and mental level. We are human being, composed of four major components - body, emotion, mind and spirit. We live in a generation where sex is no longer frowned at before marriage. At least we are well aware of the spiritual implication and anyone involved in sex before marriage knows he or she is sinning against his or her own body and he or she is separated from God – the Bible said that not me. What about the emotional and mental protection? Are you prepared for that before you let him or her into that 5 minutes act?
So you see, who is cheating who? He didn’t cheat on you, you cheated on yourself. You wanted love, he wanted sex. You thought you could get him to love you by offering sex – it doesn’t matter whether you are honest or not, what matters is you wanted him to love you. He needed sex but won’t give love back. You cheated on you thinking for him. A man would say anything to get what he wants and a woman would do the same. But, at the end of the day, are you physically, mentally and emotionally ready for the consequences? If you are not then don’t let him in. Before you take a chance on love, think twice. You either end up alone or with the two of you together!
Look before you leap. Don’t cheat yourself.
Watch out for part 2.
Please comment and share.
Thanks.
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